time machine

[Mist.]

can someone invent a time machine so I can go back to when I first joined lewasite and all of its awesomeness !!!
time is flying, im 22, my daughter is almost 4, im going to be getting a divorce sometime this year, and I still dont know what I want to do with my life....

... I need more time :\

[Classicblast]

Time is the one thing that never awaits us. I am sorry about your marriage. Its a shame that sometimes life takes that course but it does for a lot of people.

You have a precious child out of this all and nothing can change that.

When I was 22 I wasn't all that sure where I was going. I was still young enough to entertain thoughts of going through the system and possibly ending up in the majors. I knew in my true heart that probably wasn't realistic meaning I kind of knew I wasn't really good enough.

I wasn't sure I'd be able to play as long as I did its not usual to hang onto a job in AA ball when you're 34 becuase they usually want to look at someone who could go higher.


And at age 34 I found myself without a contract and basically without a job. I have found something that works though. Sometimes in these times you just have to put it in God's hands where life will take you and if you're not religious I would say you have to listen to your hunches and play the ones that make the most sense.

[Mist.]

i definitley have my faith, I know God put me through everything for a reason. And yeah it sucks the marriage didn't work but I do have my daughter and I am beyond thankful for that.... just kinda sucks I dont have any major goals career wise now because I feel time slippin away and before I know itll be to late to get my foot in something successful. time will tell though !

[Jason O'Lewa]

I sometimes wish I could go back in time
I am looking forward to graduation high school in just one more year.

But I see my 10 year old brother and my 7 year old sister and reminisce about when I was their age and I cant help but think that life was easier and its only going to get more complicated as it goes.

I don't really know what I want to do with my life either. I am definitely more of a hands on person than an office person and my grades are good but they wouldn't get me into Ivy league.

But there aren't that many jobs out there for you unless you're college educated. There are some but those are taken quickly because there's more people than spots available.

I am still a bit undecided what I want to do after I graduate but a year from now I have to have that decision made.

[Classicblast]

Jason is a junior.... I remember when your dad first joined discussion with us you were in Kindergarten and your younger siblings weren't born yet.

[Phil]

I am sure that getting married and having a child at a young age put a lot of demand and pressure on you.

I don't know that life ever goes in a straight line and that what we plan ends up the way we draw it up.

I went to college for a year. It was good, and that summer CSX had a temp position from May *this was in 1990* through September. Perfect, I thought. Much of that summer was spent working on repair crews and I learned a lot. Most guys who get temp spots go through the motions but I got involved. In September I was told that I could have a permanent spot in October. It was a tough decision but I decided it was a rare chance at a good job and had I gone through school it would take several years to grow in a career that pays that well. So that was what I did and CSX assigned me to the Penn-York Division. 24 years later I still wonder how my life might have been different but I have no serious regrets although not getting a degree is a minor regret.

Something will find you, Mist.

[Nitro God]

May 11, 2014 2:12:00 GMT -5 Mist. said:

i definitley have my faith, I know God put me through everything for a reason. And yeah it sucks the marriage didn't work but I do have my daughter and I am beyond thankful for that.... just kinda sucks I dont have any major goals career wise now because I feel time slippin away and before I know itll be to late to get my foot in something successful. time will tell though !

I doubt God put you through anything with him not existing or anything. You're completely responsible for your own actions, it's why you were a teen Mother and why your marriage probably failed (no actually I'm sympathetic of that, I think being 22 and divorcing is far too young for any relationship). You don't have goals b/c you're one of the many people who pursued a family (husband and kids) before you got yourself any kind of proper education and proper job (again only jest at this, idk if that's true or not). Here's another hard truth, God wont hand you crap b/c he doesn't exist. You have to go out there and grab opportunities, you have to decide where you want to go in life.

Don't worry about God not existing though, you don't need him b/c you have an even better motivator. Your child who will obviously be the most important thing in your life needs to see her Mother trying everything to be as successful as she possibly can and set an example for that. You'll do that, you'll be successful, you'll find a new husband probably, probably have more kids and you'll be happy. If you go out there and take it that is, if you wait for 'God' to 'hand' you everything this will not happen. I'm tired of this attitude. I've genuinely written this on the very low chance you might actually take note of what I say and try to better yourself. More likely you'll think I'm an arrogant, lefty bellend and tell me to gently caress off and I probably deserve that.

Good luck in life.

[Nitro God]

Sorry I did make the assumption as well that you wait around for God, more likely you do actually attempt things but also believe in the help of God.

[Phil]

While I think some of what Nitro says is reasonable in that you can inspire yourself and that children are good motivators I do believe in God. I also believe prayer alone isn't enough but that God helps those who help themselves you pray and some inspiration comes your way and you work towards it.

Atheists are more offended by the mention of God than believers are by atheists.

Children are great motivators and its hard in your late teens and early 20s to know what you want to do for life. My son, Jason is finishing his junior year and he is expected to have all his applications to colleges in by October 1 if he is to be accepted for August or September of 2015. That means a career decision a 17 year old must make. I know its always been that way but it is a lot of pressure decision at young ages.

Marriage is different for everyone. I was 25 when I got married, my sister was 21 and my brother was 30.


Careers sometimes find us too

[Classicblast]

I think sometimes not believers think Christians only pray and expect a miracle and that isn't true. You don't always get what you pray for not does life just fall into place.

In 1993 I finished high school and got an associates degree. I played recreation baseball and kept trying out for colleges hoping to maybe pursue a 4 year degree and play baseball. I prayed to take my baseball playing to a high level. To the top.

Rookie leagues were accepting tryouts if you can get there and I had a 74 F150 that was cycled out of the work fleet at the family business couldn't really afford a better vehicle for the tryout circuit. I prayed for a solution but my brothers came to me and said not to worry about the family business it was and will stay in good hands try to get into a pro ball league. They chipped in and bought me a decent used Thunderbird so I could make these trips

I prayed for success and after being told "we have enough" by the time I reached a few tryouts, I finally got a spot on a rookie league team in 1994. Midway through 1995 baseball season I got called into a AA team. I really hoped this would be a stepping stone to the Majors. Well it wasn't. I didn't become a New York Yankee, or a Pittsburgh Pirate or a LL Dodgers player but I maintained a job in AA baseball until 2009. I also met and married Blastgirl along the way and we have a pretty good life.

I think for the most part my prayers have been answered. Obviously not getting all of what I prayed for.

It takes effort but I believe God does help you find the doors that are opened for you. You still have to try the doors.

[fartinggurl]

I remember when I was 22, I had just received my Associates Degree and was trying to decide if I wanted to continue my education and work for a Bachelor's or start looking for a job in my field of study. I remember thinking that I would find a job without a problem because of my education, but the economy was bad, and I ended up working at a sandwich shop for a couple years, which left me unsatisfied. I changed jobs a couple more times, trying to find something I liked, but was still unsatisfied, thinking that I would be one of those people stuck with a job they hated. Then back in March, I got a job that I enjoy going to everyday. It may have taken time and effort, but it was worth it.

[Phil]

We never know where life is going to take us. In 2 weeks my 2nd child is going to be 11. I remember posting with some of our still current forum members that he was about to be born. my little girl is 7 now and Jason is about to start his senior year of high school.

so they start grades 12 grades 6 and grade 2 this year.