Wedding Jersey

[Kimm]

I saw on facebook that a longtime friend of the Lewasite community we know here as Jersey got married over the weekend.


I knew he was engaged I did not know when the wedding was set for but it happened yesterday.

Jersey always and remains highly respected by our family and I think by the rest of Lewasite too so I wish him well and am sure everybody else does too.

[Classicblast]

Obviously congratulations are in order to Jersey and his wife.

[Phil]

I noticed that also. Of course I sent him posts on facebook but I'll also do it here I know life's adventures are going to kind to our friend Jersey. He has been a loyal and honorable friend to those of us on all the forums we have participated together. Life will reward him for such.

[Jersey]

Man, here I am a month later and hadn't even seen this until now.

Thank you very much to everyone who wished me and my new wife well. It is very much appreciated. The wedding day was wonderful and the honeymoon in Ireland was a lot of fun, but it is NOT a process I would willingly go through again. Not only is it insanely expensive, but the tension that can arise between families can often burn bridges and blow things apart. Fortunately nothing about our wedding was ruined, but I don't know when we'll be talking to my sister again. I'll leave it at that for the moment.

Times are hard. She and I are struggling with money and getting ourselves square with keeping rent paid, cars paid, and fixing the financial damage the wedding wrought. It'll be repaired and we'll be stronger for it, but it's not an easy thing to deal with.

Other than doom and gloom, I couldn't be happier to be married.

[Classicblast]

There's adjusting to be had. I wouldn't want to send bad vibes with anything I might say as Blastgirl does sometimes still use this board, but we have a great marriage but obviously we, like everybody had to adjust. And you are correct there is usually some tension among the families but I know you and your sister will find common ground once again. It may take a while though.

As you have probably seen, my family is rather formal and blastgirl's family has a nature that can come across as happy-go-lucky. They really aren't and they do take things more seriously that it might seem if you met Kim, Danny or their father, even the others in the family who are not internet forum participants. You could get the impression they're not taking things as seriously as the rest of us til you get to know them.

That notion failed to impress my parents at the early juncture. But when everybody got more accustomed to each other the relations became good. It didn't help that my family and blastgirl's live several states away. Obviously it took longer to get to know each other. But there are some ironic likenesses. My family goes three boys I am the youngest. Hers goes three girls one boy the boy at the end. My middle brother and her middle sister are the only two who never participated at lewasite at all. hahaha. But seriously if all parties want to keep the communications open time brings you together at least it did for us.

And weddings especially since we are families from different states there was a lot of stress too.

And financial problems have a way of just you two together having to figure out how to manage with the change in life style but you will. That probably will take less time. For what it's worth.

[Phil]

Of course there's adjusting. You go from the ' man cave' to the domestic life. You learn to juggle your financial affairs. You also learn to give in because most times its easier. But after 17 years I don' t regret anything.

It was a bit easier in a way than Jersey and Classic's stories. My wife and I were both local. We knew each other a little bit for years. She was a sophmore when I was a senior. We didn't date each other in high school, but we knew one another then. Congratulations Jersey. You will do fine.