Embarrassing date

[Antonio]

For the past several months I been down on my luck with being kicked to the curb and many bad dates. But last week I went on a date and it was a wreck to me at least. I met this girl we talked for a while and finally agreed to go on a date, so we meet at a restaurant and she comes in looking very trashy she had her top unbuttoned and exposed alot then we went to the movies. I never got so many looks in my life, she wants to meet up again how can I avoid this one?

[Kimm]

If youre not going to hit it off you should nix it right away. Just tell her that you just dont think youre going to be a good fit. If youre not interested already theres no reason to string her along either.

[angel607]

usually in my case if a 1st date goes wrong I won't call them back. but you could always say you are not ready to date and would like to remain friends.

[Antonio]

Thanks guys always good to hear from a womans perspective, and it wasn't so much I didt like but it was her dress attire I think on a date you want to make a good impression, I was interestd when I asked her out no need to wear a provocative shirt to get my attention, were not in Highschool anymore I want personality and intelligence.

[angel607]

i understand what your saying Antonio. I think first impressions are most important. if someone would dress like that on the first date what happens when she meets the parents in that kind of outfit. I remember when I was 20 and I went to eat at boston market with friends. this employee liked me and my friend's sister jana worked with him and gave him my number. I went on a date out to eat with him and he told me he used to have a drinking problem. his breaking point was when he was so drunk he peed in his pants in front of his father. I thought it was a little much to give that information on a front date. I have been on some pretty weird first dates some bad and some good. I think when you meet someone you will know then and there you want to be with them. there is that feeling and a connection.

[Blastgirl]

That wasn't a very good impression. I would think that the best behavior is in the beginning.

[Demona]

Yeah, I think you should just leave it at that. If you have the courage to be honest, then do so, but if you can't, then say what Kim said. I'm glad to hear you want personality and intelligence, not a hoochie mama. Just curious though, what are your standards on looks? Back when I was in high school, all the boys cared about was girls who were stick thin and preppy. That usually went along with "easy."

[fartinggurl]

Everyone here pretty much said what I was going to say. Just be up front about if you know it's not going to work out.

I can remember one bad first date I went on a couple years ago. He was friends with one of my best friend's now ex-boyfriend. We did a double-date with them (bad idea), where we just watched movies at my friend's house. My friend and her ex were kissing throughout the movie, which was akward, and the guy I was on the date with, kept taking calls from his ex-girlfriend, whom he was apparently not completely over. Ugh! After about an hour of this, I made up an excuse about not feeling well, and I left. Not a good way to make a good first impression.

[Antonio]

Thank you everybody for your input, and to answer your question my standards on looks varies, from girl next door to average to beautiful, as I gotten older I accepted variety.

[Phil]

Variety is good in your life.

[Kimm]

I would dress kind of conservative on a first date. I woudlnt want to make my date think I was trying to be too noticed or too enticing that could backfire too.

[fartinggurl]

My thoughts when it comes to wanting to make a good impression on a first date; treat a first date like you would a job interview. Put your best foot forward.