Something That Worries Me

[fartinggurl]

Last Wednesday in my hometown, a dead body was found in an abandoned building. It looked like the cause of death was suicide, since the body was hanging, but the police are still not sure. When I heard about it Thursday, I at first thought that it might have been a homeless person who died sometime during the winter. However that night, one of my friends called me, telling that one of our friends, J.C., who we went to high school with (he was a freshman when I was a senior) has been missing for about four months. What scares me is that the description of the body they found, fits that of J.C. You can read the story here:

www.myfoxcleveland.com/myfox/pages/News/Detail?contentId=7407275&version=1&locale=EN-US&layoutCode=TSTY&pageId=3.2.1

Right now I'm really worried about J.C. The last time I spoke with him was sometime in March, right before he shut his myspace page down (that was mostly how we kept in contact with each other, but he didn't like myspace and only had it to keep in contact with his friends). When he shut his page down, I didn't think anything about it. I figured we would run into each other, since we live in the same town. Then I heard about the dead body that was found, and that J.C. had been missing for about 4 months, which is about how long they said the body had been in the building.

Sadly, there were times when my friend contemplated suicide, and I stopped him once last summer when his girlfriend broke up with him. After I stopped him that time, he seemed to be fine, and agreed that suicide was not the answer to his problems. Then I find out about the dead body, and that it could possibly be him. I also found out that he had run away from home, but his mother didn't report him as missing, since she said he had run away before, but always came back.

That really angers me bacause his mother didn't inform his friends, or the police, about him being missing when he ran away. If she did, we could have kept a lookout for him, or if he said something about suicide, we could have stopped him. The police still don't have any idea about who the person is, or the cause of death, since the body was so badly decomposed. Right now I'm really worried. I just hope that it's not J.C.

[Phil]

Oh wow.
A case like this has any number of possibilities. The age of the victim does match a guy who could be your friend. But I hope for all that's good it's not your friend not that anybody's death is ok.

I'm sure there was tension with his mother and him and that he had left before and she probably didnt report his absence because she was so sure he would be back like he had before. As a parent you don't want to come across as the Shepperd boy who cried wolf.

There was the thread here last week about D00m3R running away, we all know he returned home perhaps even it was a hoax in that case. Still me as a father of 3 couldn't just shrug that off as I said in that post.

And if in D00m3r's case if it was a hoax my paternal instinct would be to say 'Im glad you're alive now I'm going to kill you' figuratively speaking of course.

I don't really know what to say exactly about the situation but breaking up in relationships is part of life. I am considerably older than my brother and sister I would tell them all the time 'you're going to break up 10 times before you ever get married.

Emotional people often contemplate suicide and some go through with it.

For me at age 37 looking back at those years I could see what seemed like a lot of stress doesn't seem that way now. But at age 19 that might have been hard to believe someone saying that these difficult days will pass.

Whether or not this is your friend JC the fact is a young person hanged himself in an abandoned building about 4 months ago. This remains a tragedy. And if this guy is not JC, your friend remains missing.

[Demona]

Well, have you tried calling his mother and asking her if she knows anything? Like the last time she saw him and how was he? By the sound of it, they didn't have the best relationship at times. The descriptions, both yours and the news do have similarities. It's sad when a friend dies, or somebody you know, but so much worse when they may have done so on purpose.

[fartinggurl]

We mainly talked on myspace and cell phone (his mother has a different last name, and their home phone number was unlisted, so he gave his cell phone number, but sometime back in January he told me that his cell phone broke, and he couldn't afford a new one, so for those couple months we talked on myspace, then he shut his page down.

Anyway, there is still no new news about this case. I'll keep you all updated when I hear something new.

[Classicblast]

Oh no. Yeah keep us posted. You might remember I posted a situation some time ago about someone I knew being really talented to the point I would say that guy should have reached the majors but he had a serious drug problem. He ended up shot to death in a crack house. What a waste of good talent. Talent that was high enough to be paid millions for too.

[Jason O'Lewa]

o my god. we should all pray for Jc's safety.

[Kimm]

Oh deer. I'm sure pulling for you and your friend fartinggurl.

[fartinggurl]

Thank you all for your support. There is still no new information on this case, but I believe, as do most of his friends and family, that the body they found was his. A couple weeks ago one of my best friends ran into one of JC's sisters, who said she believed that her brother committed suicide because when he was drunk one night, he and another sister got into an argument and he molested her, and because he felt so guilty about it, that he ran away from home, and committed suicide.

At first I wasn't sure if that was true or not because he didn't strike me as the type of person to do something like that, but that time when I stopped him from committing suicide last summer, he was drunk that time as well. So right now I'm not sure. I just really want some answers, as do everyone who was close to him, but for now we just have to wait.

[Classicblast]

With DNA couldn't they determine for sure if the body was his? I am pretty sure that they can.

[Hatson]

I'm sorry the outlook is so grim. No conclusive news means it might not be him though.

[Kimm]

Thats real sad. Let us know though please. I think its better to know for sure even if the news is bad.

[maggotfarm808]

Classic, DNA though a valuable tool, can be incredibly touchy. Decomposing flesh left out in the open in a state of stress (not meaning to touch a sore subject I truly do sympathize, 4 friends of mine died within the last 4 months.) will lose a lot of it's protein content, and a lot of the acids found in the tissue are vital for matching with records. With decay comes new gasses/fungi/molecules that can drastically alter the results, even beyond the point of ever truly matching the body.

All you can do is hope for the best, even when things look grim. Hope's the only thing humanity has besides fear.

[fartinggurl]

Update:
Our local paper announced yesterday that the body they found was indeed J.C.'s. According to the county coronor, the death was a suicide.

[edlin]

I'm very sorry.

[Jason O'Lewa]

thats terrible
im so sorry.

[Classicblast]

I'm sorry that your friend passed away. Especially that way and all alone. He must have felt so guilty that he felt as if he must end his life. That's not the solution. Help is always obtainable but some people just will not seek help and this is often how the person ends up dealing with their personal adversity.

Obviously this is a tragedy but you probably still feel as if some burden is lifted because even this bad news brings about closure. Had a friend of relative of mine been missing I would want closure even if the person turned up deceased. At least that way the proper due burial can be carried out.

Thank you for the updated information and for myself, Blastgirl, Kim, Dannyboy and Thunderbird we're all sorry and our thoughts are with you.

[Blastgirl]

Its so sad that a young person chose suicide over help. I'm sorry your friend died.

[Beangirl]

Awe... So sorry for your loss.